One of the themes that continuously flowed throughout the celebration was “community”. The party was potluck-style and the conversations were centered around togetherness and mutual support. We discussed how we were all connected through our love for the mama-to-be, we organized a meal train, and made a collaborative birth playlist together. I noticed how uniting to celebrate this woman we all love made us feel connected to one another, even though many of us had not previously come together. This rite of passage and its sense of communitas is undoubtedly one of the gifts of new motherhood—it does have a way of transmuting and transcending difference.
Some of the ways we honored our friend included beautiful flowers and her favorite foods, sweet and meaningful gifts (her wish was not to have a traditional registry and instead to invite friends to contribute to one of several charities and/or bring a gift that was meaningful to them if they chose to do so), sharing spoken wishes/blessings to her and her baby during a toast, and inspiring music by female artists. There was a lot of laughter and some teary eyes. Some of the gifts she received were a quilt made by the mother of one of her friends of which some of the quilt pieces were fabric from a onesie that her friend wore as a baby, a hand-knit baby sweater, and books that one of her friends read and loved as a baby (her actual baby books!)
When I checked in with her after the celebration, my friend said that she felt “happy and ready”. Success! Celebrating with her, I was able to tune back into how I felt at my own Mother Blessing, which was very similar to what she described. I specifically remembered the feeling I had afterwards, which was the feeling of being ready to give birth, despite all of the ways in which we remain unprepared (and I think this is an important distinction). I am now ready and able to support other mothers in whatever ways I can to plan and execute their own Mother Blessings so that more women can go into their births feeling truly supported and strong. I’m excited to begin offering this as a service through Birth Love Family. You can reach me at email@example.com to begin planning your Mother Blessing!
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